It’s a nasty four-letter word I detest.

But one I’ve learned not only to confront but actually move past. Although getting here was anything but easy.

While I always considered myself a confident person, I found myself freezing up in epic fashion at various stages in my life. Big presentations…personal relationship challenges…parenting challenges all come to mind.

So it’s been both the personal and professional sides of my life.

And then one day, I came across this quote from the Dalai Lama:

“The more you are motivated by love, the more fearless and free your action will be.”

A light bulb went on.

And I asked myself these questions: Do I not love this client organization and all it stands for?

Do I not love my partner in life?

Do I not love my children?

Suddenly this fear thing all made sense to me.

And that the only way to deal with it was to bring my heart into the equation.

Which I now do on a regular basis. (In fact, for a presentation I’m giving to about 50 people in 7 hours.)

So next time you find yourself paralyzed by fear, or rattled by anxiety, look at what you’re facing and see if you can’t be motivated a bit by love.

Love of the project.

Love of the individual.

Love of life.

Because as His Holiness the Dalai Lama says, you will discover the more fearless and free your action will be.

And that fear thing will just go “poof” and be gone with the wind.